I went out for lunch with colleagues today. Again, the conversation revolves around relationships gone sour.
What makes other relationships last long and other’s not?
Is there a concrete formula for success in a relationship?
As individuals, we have to become our own person, to grow and develop to our highest potential. Once you get involved in a relationship, you somehow let go of that individuality. Just like marriage.
But when a relationship gone sour, we still ask, what went wrong? Did you have enough space to grow? Or was it “familiarity breeds contempt”? A colleague pointed out that it’s not because that in a relationship you do things together and end up fighting over silly things.
Just like marriage, the couple involve should be willing to work it out and compromise. Just like marriage, the husband and wife has to work as a team.
Here’s my should’s.
In a relationship, both individual should be willing to compromise and talk about their differences. Maturity should be a factor here.
In a relationship, both individual should have interest outside the relationship. It’s great that both have common interests but it should have something other than that common interest. Like a membership to an organization the other is not involve in. Like different work responsibilities or office.
More than anything, I look for great chemistry first. Second, I look for great and honest character in a person. Third, we should work well together in terms of looking at things and situations. Let’s say like having the same principles. We value the same important things in life.
